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“Bad Cop” Parenting Helps “Good Cop” Parenting Impress Minds

Leslie Tander

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Dads seem to go along with everything, while moms, though fun, seem to get dubbed “strict”. A great example is the TV sitcom family, the way parents always fall into the roles of good cop/bad cop. The dads always seem to get off easy, not having to make the tough decisions, while the moms take on the role of big, bad disciplinarian. 

People tend to view me as a strict parent, but I don’t hit or verbally abuse my kids; I just make them mind. Am I a “bad cop”? I do say exactly what is on my mind. While I know kids will be kids, I still expect my children to conduct themselves with manners.

At first, it bothered me greatly that people judged me as a strict parent, but then I realized that I couldn’t parent according to what people thought of my parenting skills. I must parent according to what is best for my children. There is a sweet balance with kids, and inaction can hurt them as much as overreaction. Besides, I don’t have to play bad cop all the time. As a single mom, I get to take on the role of “good cop” at times, as well, and it is welcomed with all the more endearment when I do.

My parents divorced when I was 10 years old. I stayed with my dad, a sweet but stern disciplinarian, in the summertime. Then, during the school year, I lived with my single mother, the scary disciplinarian. I learned manners. I never kept a huge circle of friends, but with few exceptions, the friends I had in school had parents who were much more lenient than mine. All of this made me believe that the good cop/bad cop television stereotype was just that – television and at least somewhat fiction.

The first time we went to Portland to visit my boyfriend’s family, they appeared mortified at my parenting methods. I was helping his mother and sister prepare a feast, but my children were acting as if they had taken caffeine pills. They were running, jumping, and yelling, out-of-control, so I called a halt to the circus and sent the kids to the backyard since it was nice outside. His family started whispering amongst themselves and giving me the death stare, but someone could’ve gotten burned or something broken and someone cut. I don’t think asking them to take the circus outside was unreasonable. They knew they were out of line. They were just waiting for me to say something, but there you have it…they weren’t going to stop until I said something.

I try to be warm and responsive with my kids, but I am also a voice of authority, not a harsh or mean one, but I mean what I say. I think it’s all right to reason with your kids sometimes. When you reason with your kids, though, do it in such a way that you discredit their reasoning. This way, you can get a clear picture of your kid’s motivations, so that you’ll know how to move forward.

Thank goodness, my boyfriend agrees with me on discipline issues for the most part. Sometimes he and one of the kids will have a disagreement, where each is unrelentingly “right”. In those cases, I am the voice of reason and common ground. It’s like nursing a little seed.

I want my step-son to feel like my birth son. I want all my kids to possess couth, honor, respect, empathy, mercy, and the ability to love others.

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35 Life Hacks That Will Revolutionize Your Life

Lea Lomas

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Life is all about learning and as we age, boy, do we learn a lot! In order to make the most out of the wisdom we gain from age, we’ve decided to collect 35 of the most clever life hacks on the internet. You can use these simple life hacks for everything from work and travel to getting chores done faster around the house. 

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35 Life Hacks That Will Revolutionize Your Life

Sherry Rucherman

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Life is all about learning and as we age, boy, do we learn a lot! In order to make the most out of the wisdom we gain from age, we’ve decided to collect 35 of the most clever life hacks on the internet. You can use these simple life hacks for everything from work and travel to getting chores done faster around the house. 

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A Koala Mother Babysits Three Joeys

Mackenzie Freeman

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The parents who have several young children at home often talk about the challenges that they face. Caring for even one very young child is certainly difficult. Having three kids like this just multiplies all of the associated obstacles. Strangely enough, many animal parents don’t quite seem to have the exact same issues. Then again, it’s possible that koala parents might have some of the same problems. 

Very young children tend to squirm and kick whenever they’re held. Parents who have twins sometimes have a difficult time holding both of the kids at once for that reason. They might get used to it, but it still might pose a lot of challenges physically. These situations are even tougher on the parents who actually have triplets. There are koala mothers who have to care for three joeys at once. A koala mother at the Billabong Zoo was in that situation recently. 

Human parents have certain inherently advantages. The fact that humans are comparatively tall certainly helps. Human infants and toddlers are very small compared to their parents. Many animal parents are not as fortunate, including the koala mother at Australia’s Billabong Zoo.

While these koala joeys are actually capable of climbing trees on their own, they seem to prefer resting on her back. While they’re still smaller than she is, the size difference is actually relatively modest. The mother koala seems to be only around three times the size of each individual joey. Since there are three of them, she seems to be at least somewhat overwhelmed. 

The koala joeys can’t seem to sit still, and all four of them seem as if they’re struggling to get comfortable and stay that way. They aren’t resting peacefully on the mother’s back. Instead, they’re constantly shifting and stepping on her. As this is happening, she’s still trying to hold onto the tree. They almost look as if they’re scratching her at times, which is enough to make anyone feel sorry for the mother koala.

It’s an entertainingly adorable image, but the mother koala still seems to be struggling to keep up with all of these joeys. She’s being remarkably patient, especially when people consider the situation overall. These koala joeys were not actually hers. She was just looking after them.

This sort of thing might surprise a lot of people, since koalas are not especially social animals. In fact, plenty of relatively unsocial animals will care for babies that aren’t theirs. They’ll still have the caregiver instinct, which can be helpful in a zoo environment. 

Koala joeys are actually very strongly connected to their parents emotionally. They spend months in pouches, and aren’t even remotely independent for a full year. It takes them even more time to become truly independent, and they’re still very attached to their parents from that point onward. This koala is not actually their mother, but they have the same sort of bonding instinct that her actual children would have. She’s acting as their mother, and that appears to be good enough for the joeys. 

Even though they could spend time on the tree alone, many of them are not going to want to do so. Koalas are generally very inactive animals. The mother koala in particular just seems to want to rest, and the joeys are not making that easy. Still, as energetic as they are, the joeys still settle down some of the time. 

It almost looks as if all four of them are going to fall any second. Still, all koalas are adapted to this sort of situation, and they’re astonishingly good at staying on trees. 

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