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Gratitude and Raising Children

Mackenzie Freeman

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Parents obviously want their children to be grateful and respectful. For one thing, parents certainly have to model this sort of behavior themselves. Parents who are rude to people in public and to the other people in their lives will usually have children who are just as rude. Kids learn from everything and everyone that they see, and short and minor moments can have a huge effect on how they go on to see the world. 

Parents who are respectful to everyone that they meet will be much more likely to have children who behave in the same manner. In fact, kids who have parents like that tend to learn to behave that way naturally. Even those kids will misbehave sometimes, but it should still be easier for parents to address that sort of behavior under those circumstances. 

It’s just as important for parents to talk to their kids about empathy and about considering the emotions of others. Kids learn many things naturally, but communicating with them on a literal level is still important. Empathy comes naturally to most people to a certain extent, but almost all human behaviors have a learned component to them. Emotional discussions really can help kids develop emotionally and intellectually.

Reading fiction is also very helpful in that regard. Research has demonstrated over and over again that people become more empathetic as adults if they spend their childhoods reading. A fictional story forces a person to take the perspective of another person, even if that person is not real.

Books force people to see things from an entirely different perspective. In certain genres, this effect is especially pronounced. There is some evidence that people who like science fiction and fantasy can develop empathetic and imaginative skills even more quickly. Parents who read to their children often have academically successful kids. Those kids can be emotionally successful as well, especially if the parents choose well-written stories that have unusual protagonists and that tell stories that challenge a person’s perspective in the right way. 

There are plenty of books that use the theme of forgiveness and respectfulness, and those books can be great to read to a child. However, children can also read stories that have a more subtle message to them. Books in general can help people develop emotional intelligence and other forms of intelligence.

Parents can also show gratitude directly to their children in a way that reinforces the right behaviors. For instance, if a child does a chore, parents can express how thankful they are. Kids who did chores without being asked should be rewarded with even more praise. Parents will sometimes judge their kids’ behavior by adult standards, which is almost always a mistake.

While people might not be that excited if their adult roommates pick up their socks, it’s much more impressive if a child does that. Children need positive reinforcement. People need to learn that being grateful has a certain rhythm attached to it, and they usually need to learn that in small ways. 

Kids also benefit from socializing with other kids who are learning the same lessons. It’s difficult to be selfish in a big group of friends. People will get too frustrated with one another if that happens. Kids might argue with one another, but they can frequently resolve disputes just as quickly. The kids who spend time with children who have already learned gratitude and empathy can start to pick up that sort of behavior from their friends, which can help to reinforce everything that they have learned at home and from their reading. All influences will matter. 

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Mom had put medical school on hold to raise her daughter. Now they will be residents together.

Sherry Rucherman

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Dr. Cynthia Kudji Sylvester had put her medical school on hold to raise her daughter. In a rare situation, now both mother and daughter will be doing their medicine residency together. In an interview with People magazine, Cynthia shared how her visit to her birth country, Ghana, inspired her to become a medical doctor. When Cynthia was visiting Ghana, a local family had come up to her asking for medical help. There was a child in the family who was sick and they didn’t have enough money to afford medical treatment. The local family assumed that because Cynthia had come from the US, she must be a doctor. That incident shook Cynthia. The divide between people from developed countries compared to people from poor countries was very disturbing for her. Cynthia thought everyone deserves the basic needs of life such as food, education, and medicine. At that time, Cynthia was just a college student.  After her visit to Ghana, It had become her life’s goal to become a medical doctor.

During her final year of college at Tulane University, Cynthia became pregnant. Once she found out that she was going to be a mother, she knew that her ambition of becoming a medical doctor had to wait. At that time, Cynthia thought it would probably be a break of a couple of years before she can rejoin medical school. However, as fate would have it, she couldn’t go back to medical school for many years after giving birth to her beautiful baby daughter, Jasmine.

Cynthia had to work to support to daughter. She was also conscious about giving the attention and focus that her daughter deserved. It was not easy for Cynthia to put her dream on hold, but her love for her daughter overpowered any dreams she had. She put her daughter above everything else. To support her daughter, Cynthia became a nursing assistant. She wanted to be part of the medical profession so being a nursing assistant was a good option for her.

As a single mom, Cynthia worked extremely hard to raise her daughter. Not only did you provide for the financial needs of Jasmine but also took out time to spend with her daughter. It took Cynthia 10 years to become a nurse practitioner. While raising her daughter as a single mom, Cynthia never gave up on her dream to become a medical doctor. The dream had been delayed but it was not canceled. As a single mom, it was difficult for Cynthia to save enough money to be able to afford medical college while saving enough for her daughter’s future.

After many years of hard work, frugal living, and some help from family members, Cynthia was able to join a medical school. However, before she could spend money on herself, she made sure Jasmine had enough to fund her education. Jasmine saw her mother work hard and was inspired to do the same. She too worked hard to achieve excellent grades in school and got admitted to medical school. This was a proud moment for Cynthia who had sacrificed a lot for this moment. Finally, it was time for Cynthia to resume her dream of becoming a medical doctor. She joined her daughter in medical school. They will be doing their residency together. The story of Cynthia and Jasmine is a heartwarming reminder of how some parents sacrifice their dreams so that their children can fulfill their dreams. In this case, fortunately, Cynthia was also able to eventually fulfill her dreams but not without years of sacrifice.

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A 4-year-old girl gives makes a video on how boys should show manners to win over girls

Leslie Tander

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A 4-year-old girl named Delilah used her mom’s phone to make a short video on how boys should learn manners if they want to impress girls and win them over. Boys of all ages should listen to her advice. In the video, Delilah talked about how she was just enjoying her day in the park when some boys started making obnoxious animal noises to gain her attention. Delilah ignored the boys but she couldn’t help but think that those boys had got it all wrong. Why would anyone like to be spoken to like an animal? Girls are not impressed with bad behavior at all. The boys thought by making such noises, they could get Delilah to come to play with them. A better way would have been to walk up to Delilah and ask her if she would like to play with them.

The boys were much older to her, so she felt a bit intimidated by them. Delilah is a strong girl and the noises from the boys did not stop her from playing in the park. She continued to enjoy her time on the swings. However, after a while, the noises became more disturbing to her and she left. When she went to the car, she asked her mom if she could make a video. Once she recorded her message, she asked her mom if this video can be shared online so that her message can reach as many people as possible. Her mom was extremely proud of the way Delilah handled the situation. The mom expected Delilah to cry and complain about what the boys were doing but she showed great restraint and character. She also did create a scene at the park. She tried her best to keep ignoring the boys for as long as she could.

This was not an isolated incident for Delilah. She often observed boys misbehaving to get attention. She has not figured out the reason why boys misbehave to get attention. For some reason, they think by behaving in such a manner, they could get the attention they seek. Maybe it is because it makes them look “cool” to behave like this. In any case, the video made by Delilah is a reminder for all us that bad behavior is not going to get you any friends.

The cute video went viral on social media and was shared by many people online. If a 4-year-old girl can feel the need to make a video and offer some advice to the boys on how to behave, that means she must have felt very strongly about this matter. Although the video was cute and funny, such matters need to be taken seriously. Such incidents can leave a lasting impression on the impressionable minds of young kids. For the kids who misbehave, it is the responsibility of the parents to teach their kids how to behave.

This particular incident was about boys misbehaving but it’s not about boys vs. girls. There are incidents where girls misbehave too. The message in this video is about respecting other people regardless of age, gender, race, etc. One of the mistakes made by parents is to not take such incidents seriously. It is true that when kids were young, they tend to do stupid things. However, this is also the age when habits start to form. If no one tells them what is right and what is wrong, they will not learn. Training your kids to have manners is a good foundation to develop their character for life.

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RESEARCH-BACKED WAYS TO THRIVE THROUGH THE TODDLER YEARS

Leslie Tander

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A lot of parents out there have some preconceived notions about the toddler years necessarily being difficult and unpleasant. While it’s true that it can at first be difficult to deal with the sometimes over-the-top emotions of toddlers, parenting a toddler doesn’t have to be hard. 

The truth is that there are a lot of misunderstandings out there about parenting toddler-aged children. The number one thing to understand is that toddlers are not going to act rationally. If you want parenting your toddler to get easier, it’s time to start empthazing. Things will go more smoothly once you succeed at understanding all the trials and tribulations of your toddler experiences while learning to handle a bewildering new world that’s as yet still quite unfamiliar.  

The growing toddler

As a toddler grows, he or she goes through a few spurts of growth. Growth spurts can have a significant impact on how a toddler behaves. As a parent, you should look out for the signs that your toddler is dealing with a growth spurt. One clear sign that your toddler is in the middle of a growth spurt is that he or she is behaving erratically. 

When your child starts to act cranky or erratic, it’s a good idea to try to channel his or her energy into educational play. Find toys that your child likes that further his or her development. Remember that play is an essential part of toddler growth and entertainment. Invest in toys that help to build skills as they entertain. This can provide some wonderful distraction amidst tumultuous periods of growth and change in a toddler’s everyday life. 

It’s important to realize that play is probably the most important aspect of everyday life for a toddler. In fact, play is practically a toddler’s responsibility. Toddlers need to be entertained or they can start to grow restless and misbehave. Help your child to learn to entertain himself or herself. This will keep your toddler independent and happy so that you have some time for yourself. 

Teaching your toddler empathy

Another thing that’s important when you’re parenting a growing toddler is teaching your toddler to empathize. The toddler years are a time of key emotional growth and development. You want to work on developing your toddler’s emotional intelligence. This doesn’t just help your child to thrive during the toddler years, but also later in life as well.

Help your child learn to empathize by taking the time to answer all his or her questions and thoroughly explaining the unfamiliar. While you’re trying to empathize with your child, you should also be trying to get your child to empathize with yourself and others as well. The toddler years are a time when it’s important to start teaching your child manners. Encourage your child to be helpful and kind to those around them. 

If you’re a parent whose child is just approaching the toddler years, have no fear! These years don’t have to be challenging. If you know how to approach toddler parenting, you can minimize tantrums and misbehavior and start teaching your child how to live with and get along with others. 

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