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Mom had put medical school on hold to raise her daughter. Now they will be residents together.

Sherry Rucherman

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Dr. Cynthia Kudji Sylvester had put her medical school on hold to raise her daughter. In a rare situation, now both mother and daughter will be doing their medicine residency together. In an interview with People magazine, Cynthia shared how her visit to her birth country, Ghana, inspired her to become a medical doctor. When Cynthia was visiting Ghana, a local family had come up to her asking for medical help. There was a child in the family who was sick and they didn’t have enough money to afford medical treatment. The local family assumed that because Cynthia had come from the US, she must be a doctor. That incident shook Cynthia. The divide between people from developed countries compared to people from poor countries was very disturbing for her. Cynthia thought everyone deserves the basic needs of life such as food, education, and medicine. At that time, Cynthia was just a college student.  After her visit to Ghana, It had become her life’s goal to become a medical doctor.

During her final year of college at Tulane University, Cynthia became pregnant. Once she found out that she was going to be a mother, she knew that her ambition of becoming a medical doctor had to wait. At that time, Cynthia thought it would probably be a break of a couple of years before she can rejoin medical school. However, as fate would have it, she couldn’t go back to medical school for many years after giving birth to her beautiful baby daughter, Jasmine.

Cynthia had to work to support to daughter. She was also conscious about giving the attention and focus that her daughter deserved. It was not easy for Cynthia to put her dream on hold, but her love for her daughter overpowered any dreams she had. She put her daughter above everything else. To support her daughter, Cynthia became a nursing assistant. She wanted to be part of the medical profession so being a nursing assistant was a good option for her.

As a single mom, Cynthia worked extremely hard to raise her daughter. Not only did you provide for the financial needs of Jasmine but also took out time to spend with her daughter. It took Cynthia 10 years to become a nurse practitioner. While raising her daughter as a single mom, Cynthia never gave up on her dream to become a medical doctor. The dream had been delayed but it was not canceled. As a single mom, it was difficult for Cynthia to save enough money to be able to afford medical college while saving enough for her daughter’s future.

After many years of hard work, frugal living, and some help from family members, Cynthia was able to join a medical school. However, before she could spend money on herself, she made sure Jasmine had enough to fund her education. Jasmine saw her mother work hard and was inspired to do the same. She too worked hard to achieve excellent grades in school and got admitted to medical school. This was a proud moment for Cynthia who had sacrificed a lot for this moment. Finally, it was time for Cynthia to resume her dream of becoming a medical doctor. She joined her daughter in medical school. They will be doing their residency together. The story of Cynthia and Jasmine is a heartwarming reminder of how some parents sacrifice their dreams so that their children can fulfill their dreams. In this case, fortunately, Cynthia was also able to eventually fulfill her dreams but not without years of sacrifice.

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A 4-year-old girl gives makes a video on how boys should show manners to win over girls

Leslie Tander

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A 4-year-old girl named Delilah used her mom’s phone to make a short video on how boys should learn manners if they want to impress girls and win them over. Boys of all ages should listen to her advice. In the video, Delilah talked about how she was just enjoying her day in the park when some boys started making obnoxious animal noises to gain her attention. Delilah ignored the boys but she couldn’t help but think that those boys had got it all wrong. Why would anyone like to be spoken to like an animal? Girls are not impressed with bad behavior at all. The boys thought by making such noises, they could get Delilah to come to play with them. A better way would have been to walk up to Delilah and ask her if she would like to play with them.

The boys were much older to her, so she felt a bit intimidated by them. Delilah is a strong girl and the noises from the boys did not stop her from playing in the park. She continued to enjoy her time on the swings. However, after a while, the noises became more disturbing to her and she left. When she went to the car, she asked her mom if she could make a video. Once she recorded her message, she asked her mom if this video can be shared online so that her message can reach as many people as possible. Her mom was extremely proud of the way Delilah handled the situation. The mom expected Delilah to cry and complain about what the boys were doing but she showed great restraint and character. She also did create a scene at the park. She tried her best to keep ignoring the boys for as long as she could.

This was not an isolated incident for Delilah. She often observed boys misbehaving to get attention. She has not figured out the reason why boys misbehave to get attention. For some reason, they think by behaving in such a manner, they could get the attention they seek. Maybe it is because it makes them look “cool” to behave like this. In any case, the video made by Delilah is a reminder for all us that bad behavior is not going to get you any friends.

The cute video went viral on social media and was shared by many people online. If a 4-year-old girl can feel the need to make a video and offer some advice to the boys on how to behave, that means she must have felt very strongly about this matter. Although the video was cute and funny, such matters need to be taken seriously. Such incidents can leave a lasting impression on the impressionable minds of young kids. For the kids who misbehave, it is the responsibility of the parents to teach their kids how to behave.

This particular incident was about boys misbehaving but it’s not about boys vs. girls. There are incidents where girls misbehave too. The message in this video is about respecting other people regardless of age, gender, race, etc. One of the mistakes made by parents is to not take such incidents seriously. It is true that when kids were young, they tend to do stupid things. However, this is also the age when habits start to form. If no one tells them what is right and what is wrong, they will not learn. Training your kids to have manners is a good foundation to develop their character for life.

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RESEARCH-BACKED WAYS TO THRIVE THROUGH THE TODDLER YEARS

Leslie Tander

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A lot of parents out there have some preconceived notions about the toddler years necessarily being difficult and unpleasant. While it’s true that it can at first be difficult to deal with the sometimes over-the-top emotions of toddlers, parenting a toddler doesn’t have to be hard. 

The truth is that there are a lot of misunderstandings out there about parenting toddler-aged children. The number one thing to understand is that toddlers are not going to act rationally. If you want parenting your toddler to get easier, it’s time to start empthazing. Things will go more smoothly once you succeed at understanding all the trials and tribulations of your toddler experiences while learning to handle a bewildering new world that’s as yet still quite unfamiliar.  

The growing toddler

As a toddler grows, he or she goes through a few spurts of growth. Growth spurts can have a significant impact on how a toddler behaves. As a parent, you should look out for the signs that your toddler is dealing with a growth spurt. One clear sign that your toddler is in the middle of a growth spurt is that he or she is behaving erratically. 

When your child starts to act cranky or erratic, it’s a good idea to try to channel his or her energy into educational play. Find toys that your child likes that further his or her development. Remember that play is an essential part of toddler growth and entertainment. Invest in toys that help to build skills as they entertain. This can provide some wonderful distraction amidst tumultuous periods of growth and change in a toddler’s everyday life. 

It’s important to realize that play is probably the most important aspect of everyday life for a toddler. In fact, play is practically a toddler’s responsibility. Toddlers need to be entertained or they can start to grow restless and misbehave. Help your child to learn to entertain himself or herself. This will keep your toddler independent and happy so that you have some time for yourself. 

Teaching your toddler empathy

Another thing that’s important when you’re parenting a growing toddler is teaching your toddler to empathize. The toddler years are a time of key emotional growth and development. You want to work on developing your toddler’s emotional intelligence. This doesn’t just help your child to thrive during the toddler years, but also later in life as well.

Help your child learn to empathize by taking the time to answer all his or her questions and thoroughly explaining the unfamiliar. While you’re trying to empathize with your child, you should also be trying to get your child to empathize with yourself and others as well. The toddler years are a time when it’s important to start teaching your child manners. Encourage your child to be helpful and kind to those around them. 

If you’re a parent whose child is just approaching the toddler years, have no fear! These years don’t have to be challenging. If you know how to approach toddler parenting, you can minimize tantrums and misbehavior and start teaching your child how to live with and get along with others. 

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What’s Happening to My 4-Year-Old?

Lea Lomas

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Most folks are told to be well-prepared for the terrible twos and the monster threes when it comes to toddlers. As they learn to live with others and begin to understand the basic rules of society (i.e. we can’t just take what we want when we want it), toddlers are notorious for fits, temper tantrums and outright screaming sessions. By the age of four, however, many parents expect their little ones to have moved on from their anger phase and begin adjusting to socialization, getting ready for preschool and kindergarten and greater interaction with others. So, when a 4-year-old seems to go right back to a hissy-fit without any rhyme or reason and it lasts for days, many parents are at their wit’s end. Wasn’t this nonsense to supposed to end already?

Candy is Not the Automatic Culprit

What’s really going on, believe it or not, is a toddler growth spurt. It won’t be the children’s last. They will see the same happen again in their teen years, but age 4 is definitely a massive biological change for toddlers who make the leap into bona fide young children. However, the toddler growth spurt is a bit of a secret parents aren’t told about, grandparents assume is due to the kids being spoiled too much (yes, their opinions are no help whatsoever), and the parents are ready to lose it themselves due to feeling cheated somehow. In reality, it’s just plain biology jumping in leaps and spurts versus nice, smooth sequential transitions pictured in science books.

Biology is Not a Smooth Process

Children have lots of growth spurts. The first occurs as they dramatically change from a newborn to a baby and then toddler in the space of two years. The next happens around age four and five. Yet another happens around 6 and 7. And then they grow dramatically again from age 11 to 14. These erratic burps come with a lot of stress, energy consumption, and crankiness. No surprise, that combination comes out in bad behavior and an inability to rationalize the effects of being tired, hormones and expectations. Instead, it’s just darn easier to throw a fit, and fancy one at that.

Lots of Research Exists on the Topic

Growth spurts as a pediatric topic is not a new one either. It’s been studied in detail and extensively since the 1920s.  Arnold Gesell was a leading name in the original research on toddlers and behavioral development during the early years of research, confirming that children’s growth is erratic and runs in iterations of balance and unbalance that repeat again and again. The unbalance phase, of course, is the ones that drives parents nuts. And in little children, that can happen as frequent as every 6 or 7 months. For years people have often thought the crankiness and temper tantrums were due to being tired, too much sugar and energy, or poor parenting attention. In recent years since the 1990s, attention deficit labels have also been added. However, the solid research points towards biological growth and changes instead, much the same way teens have their fits due to an explosion of hormones until about 17.

The Positive Side of the Picture

The good news is that the cycles of unbalance are short and change over to a balanced phase. And that’s when kids amaze everyone with their ability to learn, grow and pick up new skills quickly. It’s a bit of yin and yang; with every new miracle as a child grows comes a bit of a cost to parent’s patience. But it does go away eventually. So no, parents, you’re not going nuts in frustration with your 4-year-old. You’re instead dealing with yet another growth spurt of many to come.

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