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The Viral Proposal that Triggered a Landslide of Social Media Love

Leslie Tander

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Alright, so KFC might not be the most romantic restaurant in the world- but we all have our food vices. Isn’t it possible that for a specific couple, in a specific time and place- that a certain fast food place has some significant amount of sentimental value attached to it? Listen… at least it wasn’t Popeyes.

At any rate, sometimes being judgmental is far uglier than the thing we judge people for. Let’s take this story as a lesson in being less eager to find fault in our fellow human beings.

So a man proposed to his beloved at a KFC. Who knows. Maybe there was something special in the secret ingredient that day. Maybe his would-be fiancée just has an irresistible gleam in her eye at the moment. Whatever it was, it was an expression of love. Perhaps his only mistake was to post the event on social media. If you know anything about social media, you probably already know what happened.

The man who proposed to his girlfriend of several years proposed to her at a KFC and posted it on social media. The response from the ever-present outrage mob was as predictable as it was ugly. People started mocking the couple brutally and relentlessly. They called them low-class. They called them bums. They made fun of their looks. They said the ring was garbage. They said the two of them probably smell like greasy chicken. The abuse went on and on and on. Needless to say, the couple was not lovin’ it.

The thread was going viral, and it was as toxic as it was cruel. But then something magical happened. It was like something the author of A Miracle on 34th Street might have come up with. It was like the Internet suddenly grew a heart. People started expressing support for the couple. At first, it was slow. But then it came on like a tidal wave.

Before long, the thread was entirely populated by commenters saying that the proposal was sweet, that it was cute, and that all the people judging them should take long walks off short piers. The negative commenters were drowned out and made to look like the petty creeps they really are.

Then, something even more amazing happened. Loads of companies started pitching in and giving the couple all kinds of great free-bees to help out with the wedding and to help kickstart their family.

Woolworths sent them a voucher worth $15 grand.

Coca-Cola promised to supply the wedding with beverages.

A jewelry company gave them two beautiful rings.

A tailor offered to outfit the groom for free, and a seamstress offered to outfit the bride.

A brewery gave them $5,000 and promised to provide the adult beverages for the wedding.

A handful of tech companies gave them valuable devices.

A local news team offered to live stream the wedding.

A travel company gave them an all-expenses paid vacation package to Mozambique.

Audi offered to provide transportation.

The giving just went on and on and on. It was amazing- and as far as we can tell, it’s still going on. Sure, we realize these were promotional opportunities for the companies. But they could promote their brands in any way they choose- and they chose to use kindness to promote their brands. We think that’s just fine.

So, next time you’re feeling judgmental, next time you feel like shaming someone on social media for some petty reason- just think about the lesson of the KFC couple and think twice. You might just end up as the butt of the joke and trigger a groundswell of support for the person you chose to mock.

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Failure Provides Opportunities To Succeed

Lea Lomas

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The fear of failure is failure itself and stops you from moving farther in your life, such as pursuing a relationship a job or anything that requires you to step forward.  No one prevents you from achieving your dreams of a better livelihood. The reason why the goal goes unfulfilled is that you undercut your efforts out of fear of failure. You have convinced yourself that making an effort is worthless and is thus not worth doing. But in fact, making an effort is essential to achieve your goal.  

Stop Bullying Yourself

The struggle may be as simple as filling out an application or applications seeking the job. Fear of failure has the same effect of bullying yourself by having concerns that you will nor be successful.  Failure may lead to the self-fulfilling prophecy of failing, which is a form of circular reasoning in that you know you will fail and then chose a course that leads to failure.  

You Are Your Worst Enemy.

Your fears may be directly be related to the thinking that you do not deserve to be successful. How do you overcome the fear of failure? The definition of failure is different, and it varies from person to person who has a) different red lines to cross that defines failure, b) different values, and c) different belief systems. So what may be a failure to you could be on the road to success for another. So what is failure? You could be so afraid of failing that you become immobilized to the point of depression. You may have had bad experiences as a child and received no positive feedback from your parents. At one time, you were traumatized in your life by failure and stopped trying to succeed. As a result, you become trapped in life’s struggle.

 Negative Mindsets

With these types of experiences, you may have set a death trap, or mindsets, requiring one to reset your life to a better path. The following mindsets set the trap.
•  You sabotage yourself through procrastination, excessive anxiety, or a failure to follow through to achieve your goals.
•  No self-confidence, coupled with low self-esteem, pondering on negative self-feedback that your life will not get better or that you lack the skills or the ability to succeed or it’s too late to be successful.
•  Perfectionism – You developed artificial high standards and cannot reach a level of perfection or willingness to try.

Breaking the Cycle of Fear

1. Fear of failure has the same effect of bullying yourself by having concerns that you will nor be successful, which leads to the self-fulfilling prophecy of failing, a form of circular reasoning in that you know you will fail and then chose a course that leads to failure.   
2.  Be your own best friend.  Love yourself, be your confidant, and not your worst enemy. Seeking external happiness, like a good relationship, may fatefully tie you to the failures of others that will not lead you to genuine fulfillment. It is up to you to change your own life.
3.  Whatever negative trait you may have should be viewed in the whole of a person that you are, so don’t be so hard on yourself or permit any other person’s negative view of yourself to define who you are.

Rational and Positive Thinking  

Failure is common and many times, precedes success. The most successful people have experienced palpable failure, such as Michael Jordan failed at basketball in high school. William Buffet was not academically qualified to be accepted at Harvard. Richard Branson does not have a high school diploma. The words “think positive” is not a mind game but a highly successful method of thinking that refuses to accept failure or treats failure as having another opportunity to succeed.

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How to Boost Self-Trust for the Ultimate in Self-Care

Mackenzie Freeman

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Trust is a concept that you know well. From the time you were born, you learned to trust in the inevitability that a person would do what is expected and promised. Trust is an essential part of your relationships first with your family (parents, siblings, and even extended family). It evolves to become the basis for learning and growth experiences, romances, and (hopefully) something more self-centered: self-trust.  

What is Self-Trust? 

It’s usually called self-trust or self-esteem. The concept traces back to the works of William James, the father of modern psychology, in 1890. His concept of self-trust or self-esteem involved a combination of achievements and expectations, so you could either achieve great things or just lower your expectations. That earliest concept of self-esteem, self-worth, or self-trust changed through the 1960’s as influential figures like Nathaniel Branden ushered in the self-esteem movement, and John Vasconcellos politicized the concept. Fixing self-esteem was lauded as a “social vaccine,” the magic bullet that would remediate or prevent drug abuse, crime, teen pregnancy, etc. The persuasive efforts of Vasconcellos inspired a task force in California turned into the National Association for Self-Esteem (NASE) in 1995.  

Further studies by Psychology Professor Roy Baumeister in the 1990’s demonstrated that the premise for self-esteem was problematic. It could not cure all societal ills, nor could it be easily boosted by artificial means. In 2006, Professor Jean Twenge further found that the current laser-focus on self-esteem not only fueled depression, but also facilitated narcissism. While the concept of “self-esteem” has gradually taken on a negative or skeptical tinge, self-love and self-trust as a more positive spin-off. If you go back to the innocence of youth, before self-doubt crept in, you get the core of who you are and what you want. It’s a diamond in the raw, unmarred by pretension or the fear of failure. It’s something precious, because in that state it’s really about knowing and loving yourself, which naturally equates to self-trust.  

Why is Self-Trust Important & How Do You Reach It?  

The concept of self-trust is important because it relies upon a firm faith and understanding of your own integrity, or sense of self. As you trust yourself, you find a confidence and clarify that you are making the right choices. Self-trust is not about arrogance or narcissism. With true self-trust, it is something beyond external validation or seeking approval, because you have an internal roadmap that lays out your path and direction. Self-trust is unconditional, beyond fear or risk. Even when it feels out of reach, at the bottom of the well, or just beyond reach—self-trust never goes away. It remains, unbroken. 

The question, then, is how do you reach self-trust, particularly since it’s so important for self-care? You might just find that it’s easier than you think. Here are a few top tips for redirecting your focus and mindset inward on your journey toward self-trust.  

Get to Know Yourself!  

Julia Cameron calls it an “artist’s date.” The idea is that you need to find out what makes you tick, feed your creativity, and explore your bliss. It could be a book store, a library, or a toy store. Your exploration could involve a dinosaur expo, a botanical garden, a robot or tech show, a gemstone exhibit, an art museum, or a nuclear science museum. There are countless variations on destinations that could start to restore your self-trust.  

Look Inward, First Thing 

You probably reach for your phone as a first thought when you wake up. It feels natural, but what would happen to your sense of self and self-trust if you repossessed the first moments of your day. Look out the window to notice that the sun is rising. Open a book of poems or quotes, and take time to let the words sink in. Meditate, practice your breath exercises, take 10 or 15 minutes to do Yoga or Pilates stretches in your comfortable spot. Stand in one spot, allowing the silence of your place to surround you. Embrace the blank slate that is the day ahead, as you restore your self-trust.  

Focus on the Now 

When you focus on past regrets or future worries, you’re focusing on fear, loss, and suffering. Instead of living in a state of fear of failure, self-trust allows us to live in the present moment. It can be scary, with a feeling that it’s an unprotected or vulnerable state. What you’ll find is that living in the now opens up a realm of other possibilities. It’s not for the faint of heart. It can take courage, inner fortitude, and more strength than you ever thought you had.  

It can feel hard. It may seem possible… It also might just change your life.

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You Have More Inner Strength Than You Know

Leslie Tander

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You have more strength than you realize. You’ve always had that strength burning inside of you. Do you remember when you fell down as a child? You skinned your knees. It hurt so bad. It was the worst pain that you had ever felt. You looked down and saw the blood. You wondered if you would ever recover. Then, magically, the bleeding stopped. New skin grew to take its place. The bruises that you received from that fall also faded. They eventually disappeared as if nothing had happened. Then, the healing process finished. You became stronger. You learned from this adventure and it made you a better person.

You have more strength than you realize. You have been struck down before. The world has told you no. Maybe you got denied for the job you so badly wanted. Maybe you got rejected from the school you always had dreams of attending. Even though the world told you no, you didn’t listen. You didn’t pay attention to anyone or anything that was going to tear you down. You didn’t let your wings get clipped. You didn’t let that anchor drag you to the bottom of the sea. You didn’t let anyone tell you what you could or couldn’t do. Even after the world said no, you found a way to spread your wings and fly again because that is who you are. That is where your strength comes from.

You have more strength than you realize. You decided to hold onto that vision of your dreams. You didn’t want them to tell you no. You ignored those who wanted to stop you. You ignored those who didn’t see or share your vision of what your future should look like. After all, who are they to dictate your future? Who are they to tell you how to live your life? Who are they to believe your dreams should be limited? You have so much strength inside of you. Your heart is so strong. Your bones are resilient. Your fingers are capable of painting a picture on the canvas of your future that knows no bounds. You do not settle for black and white when you know your life deserves to have the color of a thousand rainbows.

You have more strength than you realize. You can do the impossible. You have experienced grief in the past. You know what this feels like. You know that grief can shatter you in ways nobody else can. You feel guilty even though you know this isn’t your fault. You have always found a way to pick up the pieces of your broken heart and put them back together. Even when you felt like you were broken beyond repair. Even when you wanted nothing more than to curl up, close your eyes, and shut the world out, you got up and kept going. You did this because of the tremendous strength inside you. You decided not to let your wounds become scars. You decided to let your body heal just like your knees did when you were a child.

You did this because you have more strength than you realize. Now, you have risen to meet the challenges placed before you. You did this both for yourself and for the world who has told you no. You did this for the people who look to you as a source of inspiration. You do this because you want others to know that they have more strength than they realize as well. You have the strength to change the world.

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